Comment spam is a real pain in the behind. I was just comparing how WordPress captures spam and lets me look over messages and delete spam. It really is the best — by far. Just wanted to say that. Maybe I’ll do a video to show you how much better WordPress is.
One thing, though, WordPress is pretty aggressive on its spam filtering. So, it captures quite a few legitimate comment posts. I try to catch all of those and approve them, but that might be why your comments don’t immediately show up on the site. I NEVER delete posts on purpose.
Oh, while we’re talking about WordPress, lots of people are asking how I got my custom design. That’s actually a preview of a new feature that’s coming to WordPress.com soon, says Matt Mullenweg (he did my custom theme). Thanks Matt, keep the good stuff coming!